《但是你没有》的作者是一位普通的美国妇女，她的丈夫在女儿4岁时应征入伍去了越南战场，从此她便和女儿相依为命。后来，她的丈夫、孩子的爸爸不幸阵亡。她终身守寡，直至年老病逝。她的女儿在整理遗物时发现了母亲当年写给父亲的这首诗，题目就是《但是你没有》。
Remember the day I borrowed your brand
new car and dented it?
I thought you'd kill me, but you didn't。
And remember the time I dragged you to the beach,
and you said it would rain, and it did?
I thought you'd say, "I told you so." But you didn't。
Do you remember the time I flirted with all
the guys to make you jealous, and you were?
I thought you'd leave, but you didn't。
Do you remember the time I spilled strawberry pie
all over your car rug?
I thought you'd hit me, but you didn't。
And remember the time I forgot to
